I’ve been thinking a lot about being kind to others and they way I treat people. Also the fact that I’ve let others treat me in ways that are not appropriate. I know sometimes it can a hard thing to do. With my aunt she is very pushy and I worry about starting an argument if I try to tell her I don’t want to do something or I don’t want to be treated a certain way. But, I’m finding when I show I have respect enough for myself and say “that behavior is not appropriate.” And detach with love as much as I possibly can. It really helps the situation in dealing with people. Also I do think if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all is an appropriate term. I think there would be much more peace and respect in families if this was the case at least in my family. I’m not sure I agree with the phrase “fake being happy until you are.” I feel like apart of my issues have been putting on a cover and acting like I’m all right when underneath I’m really not. Around some people like strangers I of course try to at least be cordial. I try to respect my family members and some I do “Fake it.” I’m not sure if that helps me or not but at this point I would say it really doesn’t help. I feel like there is less then a handful of people in my family I can really open up too because I never know when I’ll be criticized for having an opinion, being myself, or saying what’s on my mind. Thanks for letting me share. Take what you like and leave the rest.

I finished the book “why men love bitches?” I didn’t agree with everything the author suggests in the book. But, I do agree with her main points. Men don’t like neediness. they like to be wanted but not latched on to like your life depends on them. I could relate to that. I can get very needy in relationships and I do think it drives men away. She says you shouldn’t do things for a guy like cook for him all the time which, I disagree with. I think they are ways of showing your guy you care about him. I send cards and love notes to my guy all the time and he loves it. It makes him feel special. I do agree you should not change your whole life around for a guy. something I’ve also been guilty of. Changing my schedule and canceling plans or forgoing plans because I was waiting for a phone call or to see my boyfriend. It usually ended up with me being disappointed. So now I’ve got a clue and realize I need to keep putting myself first and maintaining my life. I think the title is completely wrong for the book though. Men don’t like bitches and women that are mean or high maintenance they like independence.